This comic has appeared in my newsfeed several times in the last week. It captures what many of us feel when we are the minority in any given situation. It captures the overwhelming feeling of loneliness when faced with the contrast of your difference. It captures why I don’t want a seat at the table.
Posted in Biracial, Black/African American, Culture, Equality, Feminist, Immigration, Latin@, LGBTQIA, Mormon, Mormons of Color, ordination of women, Pasifika, Patriarchy, Politics, Power Structure, Race, Tongan, Trans women, Women of Color
Tagged american culture, Discrimination, diversity, Feminism, feminist, inclusion, race, Women of Color
“Two Polynesians Walk into a Bar…”
It sounds like the start of a joke, but this incident is far from funny. If you’re of Pasifika decent and living in the US, you’ve probably already heard about Willie’s – the bar in Utah that reserves the right to refuse to serve alcohol to Polynesian men. I watched this video yesterday, and was definitely taken aback by the idea that the staff was instructed specifically not to serve “Polynesians.” As one of my Utah-based friends so eloquently said yesterday, “I didn’t know I lived south of the Mason-Dixon Line. Or maybe it’s 1960?” Seriously. It’s 2016. And in 2016 people are being refused service based on ethnicity. Houston, we have a problem. Continue reading
Posted in 1 PoV by 1 PoC, Current Events, Pasifika, Polynesian, Power Structure, Race, Tongan
Tagged bar, Polynesian, racism, Utah, Willie's
Let’s talk about supporting the women and children left behind when a man goes to prison, shall we? Today seems like a good day to do it. I didn’t sleep much last night, and I woke from my fitful rest with a heavy heart and a mind full of memories. Yesterday two families experienced a tragedy – one man’s life lost and another man’s life forever altered as the result of a deadly fight. Continue reading
Content Warning – sexual abuse, discussion of HOW to prevent abuse esp within a Samoan/Pasifika context.
When I was twenty, I told my husband Darren, something I’d never told anybody else. I told him that when I was little, somebody over time, had done bad things to me. Then they threatened me. They said, ‘don’t tell anyone or you’ll be in big trouble.‘
I was scared, sore and ashamed. I was seven. I believed him. Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Motherhood, Pacifica, Parenting, Polynesian, Saving Our Children, Tongan, Women of Color
Tagged child abuse, Child sexual abuse, children, culture, family, how to prevent, Justice Vui Clarence Nelson, LDS, love, marriage, Mormon, Pacific Islanders, Pasifika, relationships, religion, Samoa, Samoan culture, sex, Tonga
Yesterday I got a Mother’s Day card from my son, Ovaka, and I cried the ugly cry. You know the one I’m talking about – where you gasp for breath and your face contorts into what can only be described as gargoyle-esque deformity and snot drips liberally down your face. I was alone, thank goodness, when I opened the card, but just thinking about it makes tears spring to my eyes at the most inconvenient times. I miss my son. Continue reading
Posted in Culture, Parenting, Polynesian, Single Motherhood, Tongan, Women of Color
Tagged Adoption, Mother's Day, Pasifika women, Single Motherhood, Tongan, Women of Color